The Private Job and the Job gap

Intelligent people don’t get into the Job gap/or they just don’t wait to get into the Job gap!

Job gap may not be good for the employee but is good for the employer and the economy, as the unsuitable Human resource is weeded out. Employee will have to maintain the decorum of the job, or get terminated!

Too much job gap may increase your detachment, or make you a parasite, but it may also increase the chances of your becoming unemployable.
Sometimes it is better to remove the unproductive employees ("Parasites"), as he/she may generate/promote negative thoughts in the mind of other employees and de-motivate the productive employees, causing considerable loss to the organisation.

Always the employees cannot be proactive, they need motivation, goal orientation, empathy and sympathy from their Employer/HRM.

What Job gap gives?

1. Sleepless nights
2. Anxiety
3. Worries and Uncertainty
4. Loss of money from your savings/ Fear of becoming Pauper. 
5. If you have debts like education loan, than you will not be able to pay the EMI (equal monthly installment) and interest will go on increasing. 
6. If you are Single, with very less cash liquidity, and an uncompromising, Individualist, then you will not find your Other Half. 
7. It may leave you into situation where you become “Covert”.
8. May make you absent minded and a day dreamer. 
9. It will give the employer from small and medium industry, an opportunity to hire you at a salary less than what your qualification deserves. 
10. You will start remembering and contacting your old friends and seeking help from them. 
11. Your ego may start having an abnormal growth. 
12. You may land into the vicious cycle of Probation period and poor experience. (Vicious cycles)
13. If you are internally strong, optimist with faith in God and self, then you will become more religious, philosophical, customer to Human Resource/ Career Consultants and/or religious “Gurus” and /or astrologers, etc. 
14. If you are not internally strong and optimist with faith on God, than you may become a prodigal child of your parents / Social parasite /addict to intoxicants (tobacco products/alcohol/drugs/Opium/Marijuana, etc.) / Criminal/Naxalite/Terrorist/part of the sex industry/ etc. 
15. Rarely, but opportunity to get better job.
16. If you had been working far from your house and had not visited your house for very long time, than an opportunity to visit your house! 

Managing Job Gap 

1. Sales ≡ Survival. Strive to increase the Sales and the Profit of your organisation, and also try to get the credit for higher sales/profit on your name. Keep this as your prioritized goal and forget all your personal goals. 
2. Motivate/encourage your coworkers/subordinates bringing money to the organisation by increasing the Sales/Profit.  (To increase sales, no much higher degree is required. Pleasing personality, ability to convince, optimism, knowledge of the language of the client/customer, etc. is enough)
3. Plan your finances and savings in such way that even if tomorrow you are asked to resign, you may sustain yourself and your dependents till finding of new job and getting the salary.
4. Don’t be averse to competition.  Competition is the rule of life, as the life starts with the competition between the sperms. Even the saints and beggars have to compete with their peer ones.
5. Never criticize your boss and the organization in which you are working.
6. Never try to show yourself smarter than your seniors. 
7. Never argue with your boss and cross question them.
8. If you feel uncomfortable, keep quiet and try for silent search of another job and then quietly resign. 
9. Avoid being too much open and transparent.
10. Keep on trying for Government job. (There the parasitism is quiet tolerated! If you are not doing work as expected by your higher officer, you may be scolded/ not given promotion/suspended in extreme case; but you will not be terminated! ).
11. Digest the fact, the boss is always right.
12. Don’t teach thriftiness to your boss/senior. 
13. Be a blind follower of your boss.
14. Don’t think about the cost the organization will have to bear at attrition, but think about the cost that you will have to bear on getting into the job gap.
15. Unlike US, in India there is no “Jobless claim Benefits”. There will be hardly anyone even to help you.
16. Your good contacts at the period of good time may help you.
17. Never show that you are idle. Even when no proper work is being assigned to you, try to show that you are involved in some important work and you are important for the company/organization.
18. Never nurture your ego.
19. Try to digest few facts.
20. Never try to come very close to your Human Resource Manager. Even if you feel to be idle in your organization, never go and tell your HR about that.
21. Never use your office resources for your personal interests and hobbies. E.g. using office computer for blogging, chatting with friends, personal emails, etc.
22. Similarly never use your office communication system to talk to your relatives, friends.
23. Never comment about anyone or give judgment about anyone. (Habit of loose commenting is very dangerous)
24. Never forget your status in the organization. 
25. Even when you are suffering from monotony, drudgery, or no job satisfaction, never express that to anyone. Never express your frustrations to your co-workers.
26. Beware of the organizational politics. 
27. If you develop fear that the boat in which you are traveling along with your co-workers has a hole in it, you need smartness in managing your fear. Your fear, when known by others, can magnify the fear of the investors of your company, which can cause havoc. So never air-out your fears about loss, failure, etc. with your juniors, subordinates and/or superiors. 
28. Be cautious when there is overstaffing, and no work is being allotted to you. 
29. Don't forget to switch off or keep your mobile phone in Silent mode while attending a meeting/seminar/conference, etc.
30. Never attend a personal call, when your Boss is near you or talking to you.
31. Stand up from your seat when your boss + /senior employee + /customer comes near you to communicate or see your work. 
32. Don't forget to close your personal files from the computer, when your boss/senior employee comes near to you.
33. While attending any exhibition cum sale, if you happen to quote wrong price for any of your product, don't give over value to your word and stick to it, but say sorry and give the right quotation. 
34. Never interfere, especially when your boss is saying something to a client and you have felt that he/she has given wrong statement, and you pin-pointing his/her mistake, trying to correct him/her!, not even when your boss is too close or friendly to you. 
35. Don't try to be a perfectionist! 
36. At the time of your recruitment, If the employer does not take any of your original certificates, be sure that they will not mind even if you resign the next day of joining! In this case you should keep on trying for a better job. 
37. Beware, in some interviews, there can be some members from interview panel, acting as your competitor. 
38.  If they keep some of your original certificates, then be sure that they do not want you to loose immediately. 
39. The employer happy in recruiting you, will arrange at the organization’s expense, accommodation and food facility for you and will even pay you the cost which you have borne in coming to the site of interview. 
40. Analyze your "Nature", preferably in the early stage itself and explore the opportunities most suited to your "Nature".  

Increasing the Employability (Apart from Educational qualifications and knowledge of different languages):

1. Having house in the city/town or the places where job opportunities are more.
2. Getting married! Most of the Job prefers married men/women than the single ones.
3. Having Passport and Visa, Voter Identity Card, Permanent account Number (PAN), Demat account, Driving Licence (Two wheeler and four wheeler), National and International ATM card, Internet Banking, Multi city Cheque book, Unique Identity Number (recently launched), shares of the company in which you like to work, etc.
4. Having  Mobile phone (multi SIM+/Long battery life+/Internet access+/GPS+/etc.), Motor bike (outdoor/field work and travelling jobs) (Car for high profile job) and/or Laptop/Net book (managerial job)
   
   
   
   

Some of the techniques (De-motivation practices)  to remove from the job/force to transfer :

Many company/organisation do give hint or warnings along with the chances to improve, before firing someone.

Before straightforwardly asking to resign, most of the employers/HRMs, create situation when the employees may themselves resign from the job. Some of these are:

1. Allotting no work/ not properly defining the work
2. Abusing / Criticizing before the peer group, subordinates, etc.
3. Providing designation lower than some of the less qualified employees
4. Allotting work on Holidays, giving no proper leave, no benefits/appraisal for working on holidays, etc. 
5. Calling the female employee at somewhat lonely place, house (of the employer), etc. 
6. By making the female employee to stay in office till late evening/night beyond the office hours, by keeping on allotting some work. 
7. Harping about less-profit/loss, and not giving salary/wage or delaying in giving salary/wage. 
8. Neglecting, not replying to the issues raised by you, etc.
9. Creating situations of competition between the fellow employees.
10. Making you to travel different places without giving you the expenses in advance and than creating delay in clearing the Travel Allowance/Dearness Allowance/ expense bills. 
11. Your immediate superior will ask you, have you got the salary for the month in your account? Many senior staffs have not got the salary! The company is in loss. Prepare for another job. Or will create similar environment to make you feel job insecurity.

Finally terminating

1. The employer will ask you to search another job for the time being, and that they can rejoin later, when the organisation passes out from the “difficult” times. 
2. Asking you to submit the facilities provided by the organisation along with the resignation letter.
3. Asking you to leave for your house and stay there unless, the organisation recalls him/her.
4. Transferring you under the “new boss” in a new office (near to your house), who does not like to consider you his employee. 

What employees need ?

1. Salary/Wage for livelihood sustenance.
2. Work close to the house and/or,
3. Work close to the family members and/or friends.
4. Availability of affordable accommodation
5. Being considered important for the organisation, and love and respect from the co-workers.
6. Justified salary/wage with increments to maintain the position, inflation, etc. 
7. Clear job definition, goal orientation and motivations.
8. Job/Livelihood security, no fear of job gap, even when job gap is there, emotional and financial support from the employees and hope of getting at least at par job in another organisation. 
9. Security to life and health, insurance for life and health-both personal and for near and dear ones/family. 
10. Availability of food to which you are habituated (e.g. Vegetarians will not enjoy working in the places where mostly non-vegetarian foods are available) and the products which you are in habit of consuming.
11. Availability of other infrastructure: Road, affordable Transport maintaining Time and providing convenience in terms of seating arrangement. 
12. Computer with Internet facility, Mobile phones with proper signal, etc.
13. (Some Tamasic needs of many employees are: Tobacco for chewing / Bidi / Cigarette / Gutakha /Alcohol / Meat products etc.)
14. Opportunity of getting better job at later stage.
15. Empathy/sympathy from the Management.
16. Better growth and development prospect for your children. 

Getting New Job!
When you have got it as a seeker/on mercy at job gap, etc. (You have not been snatched from your current organisation.)	When you are lured or snatched from your current organisation.
When you are a job seeker, with very less cash liquidity and high liability, you will not have much bargaining power, and your importance for the organisation will depend on the situation, vacancy etc. The old/existing employees of your new organisation may feel jealous and/or insecure. You may want higher salary and position but management will not like to create jealousy situation for its old/existing employee. Old/existing employees may even try to pull you down or see a competitor in you. You may find difficulty in taking decision, when a new job offer comes from the company  which had earlier not paid attention to you, but now when you have been supported by another company (though not at the expected salary).	Though it may be controversial from the view point of ethics, you will have options and thus bargaining power. Here you will be important for the organisation, which wants to snatch you. But beware; there may also be a ploy to destabilize your career or the organisation in which you were working.

Unethical ethics/Paradoxical ethics

1. Why an employee though frustrated in the current job, does not want to leave it?

• Loyalty?
• You somehow want to complete your probation period and earn some job experience. (It may be that, you would not have been able to continuously complete even a year in an organisation!)
• If you have promised or signed a bond, that you will not leave by yourself.
• If you are scrupulous and gratefully ‘indebted’ to your current boss for giving you the job in difficult times.
• You may not be confident of getting another good job.

2. Actions of a frustrated employee: 

• Writing blogs on the office computer or personal computer with mostly complaining/revolting/negative thoughts.
• Posts resume on different job sites
• Talks negative about the company with the co-workers or with the near dear ones.
• Does not meet the target and gives several excuses.
• Prepares for the possible job gap.  

3. When you do not shift to another organisation, but remains frustrated /dissatisfied with your current job and expresses your frustration by cursing your fate, situation, etc., you will practice an Unethical Ethics or Paradoxical Ethics.

Government Job Vs. Private Job

My Resume

Matrimony

पत्‍नीमं मनोरमां देहि मनोवृत्तानुसारिणीम्‌ ।

तारिणीं दु‍र्गसंसारसागरस्‍य कुलोद्भवाम्‌ ।। 

- श्री दु‍र्गासप्‍तशती, अर्गलास्तोत्रम्‌ (२४),  पृष्‍ठ २३५: गीता प्रेस 

"O godess Durga!, bless me with a bride who is as per my desire, whose mind and thinking is similar to mine, who will help me to get Moksha (Liberation from cycle of birth and death) and who is from good family"

Very few Brides and Bridegrooms get the right to select their life partners/ Other Half.  Very few in this world is able to marry the person whom he/she likes to marry. An Individualistic person will like to take personal interest and involvement in getting their Other Half.

At good level of maturity and at ideal level, both the partners will know their Opportunity Cost, and will try to find such a good match, that after marriage, child birth and spending the other good and bad days together for many more years, neither of the partner complains that they could had found some one else as a better life partner!

When you will meet your most matching other half, you will get positive energy and a sense of fulfillment. ©      Adventure/Prosperity/Risk loving people likes to marry the partner ahead of him/her. ©      Peace loving/Risk averse/Practical people likes to marry the partner behind of him/her. ©      Very lucky people get a like minded partner with matching appearance/age/knowledge/ego/status/prosperity etc.

Here I am listing some of the questions which a person may ask from his/her prospective Other Half.

1. Do you like few questions or more questions?
2. What have you thought about your ideal life partner?
3. For brides: What is the expected profession and income of your bridegroom?
4. What about the education of your partner? Why he/she selected the course?
5. How many child you will like to have, how many sons and how many daughters?
6. What type of child you want? Personality both for male and Female.
7. How will you like to rear your child?
8. To what extent will you like to become teacher of your own child?
9. Will you like to teach the underprivileged children in the society?
10. Will you like to send your child very far from you for the sake of his/her education/career?
11. Why some child spoils?
12. What will you do in the case of undesired pregnancy?
13. What about adopting a child?
14. What if the child deviates from the normal path and or becomes a laggard? 
15. What if our child expresses desire to marry outside the caste/community/religion/race?
16. Who are your Investors? (Apart from Mother and Father, some people may too contribute money and/or services/attendance at the time of health problem/hospitalization and similar many other occasions of life, of yourself or some of your family members. In reward of this they may even wish you to marry one of them or their family member, etc.). What are the expectations of your Investors from you/your parents? Is their any pressure from their side? Are they happy with our possible alliance?
17. You like “Merger” with your Other Half or to be “Acquired” by him/her? What will be the cost of your “Acquisition”?
18. Who else now likes to invest on you?
19. Is their any marriage pressure on you from your parents and/or your relatives and/or the relatives of the Other Half of your siblings? 
20. Which Television Channels will you like to watch, when you are alone in the room and when you are with your family?
21. What are your favorite Television serials and the Film?
22. Exposure to Computer and Digital world? What are your favorite Internet sites, and what are the subjects which you browse on the net?
23. How will you like to position yourself in your new family?
24. Will you like to be a Home maker and or in a business/profession?
25. Why have you selected me for your life partner? Caste / Religion / Family / Profession, Money and or Property /Health, Personality, Behavior and Attitude / For happiness of your parents / Worried about the increase in age / Or that I am attracted to you, crazy behind you, etc.
26. What is best method for family planning: Abstinence / Contraceptives / Surgical sterilization, etc?
27. What are your thoughts on financial planning? Insurance/Loan/Investments, etc.?
28. What is your monthly expenditure?
29. Which are your favorite brands of Soap, Shampoo, Scent and Deodorants?
30. What about your dress and clothing style? How many dresses you will like to have?
31. What about staying along with the parents and siblings of the Other Half?
32. What if the family condition (siblings/guardians) are not good.
33. Will you like to treat your mother in law as your own mother/sister/daughter and father in law as your own father/brother/son?
34. What if your partner is a frequent traveler?
35. How you like your “In Laws” to treat you?
36. What will you do when the bread earner of the family is unable to earn more or has landed into Job gap, or is moving towards pauperism?
37. In the case of Hindu Bride: Will she like to exercise her claim on the property of her parents after the marriage? What if her brother and/or sister ask her to leave the claim?
38. How can you know whether or not your partner has some secret affairs with some one else?
39. Have you earlier loved some one? If yes, why you are not marrying him/her? If no, don’t you lack the normal human feelings?
40. Has some one before me expressed you the desire to become your partner. If yes, why you rejected his/her plea? If no, then how you can claim to have positive impact on the opposite sex?
41. Under what circumstances can you seek divorce from your partner?
42. What will you do when your partner starts being irresponsible towards you and/or the family?
43. What if you happen to feel that your partner has started having an extramarital relationship?
44. What about the Indian Mythology: Sita, Savitri, Draupadi, Sati, Menaka and Vishwamitra, Narad’s infatuation, Krishna and Gopi, Subhadra and Abhimanyu? etc.
45. What do you think about Vegetarianism and animal rights?
46. Which is your favorite animal?
47. What do you think about prayers and keeping religious fasts?
48. What if the partner is rich/high incomer but has the habit of smoking and/or drinking and/or other addictions?
49. Do you believe in astrology? Re-Birth after Death?
50. For which party and politician you like to vote?
51. Your preferences for society: Egalitarian vs. complementarian.
52. What about personal hygiene? Apart from daily bath, when will you like to have extra bath? What about bathing in cold months?
53. What is your regular sleeping and waking up time?
54. How you like to spend your holidays-When with family and when alone?
55. What makes you angry? How you express your anger?
56. What books you like to read and music you like to hear?
57. You prefer joint family or nuclear family?
58. Your preference for House, Car and Jewellery?  
59. What is the cause for which this life can be sacrificed?
60. What development in the world makes you happy?
61. What are your present worries?
62. What about your net worth?
63. What will be your need for servants/home maid? For what type of works will you require the servant/home maid?
64. What about the friends of your life partner? After marriage will you like him/her to dilute the relationship with the existing friends?
65. To the bride (from the bridegroom, assuming that the bride is the “leader”/High incomer and the bridegroom is the “laggard”/low incomer, the alliance has been due to many other non monetary/wealth factors. The bride has no feeling of respect and happiness towards the relationship.): Ok! you like to do job for being financially independent /secure, and enhance your talents. You have also not changed your name after marriage; you also do not put any signs of a married woman (Sindoor, Mangalsutra, etc.). What if some of your old lover/male colleague/male customer, etc. thinking that you are still single, becomes crazy behind you?
66. How you like to present yourself? As you are in your most often normal form, or as some high profile person (Hypocrisy)
67. What do you feel about the life of a common man in India? (Common Man in India)
68. How you treat your competitors?
69. How you treat a person older in age from you, but at lower professional/educational (formal) hierarchy than you?
70. How you react in an adverse situation?
71. While eating a special food, limited in quantity, will you like to share and eat/ just eat it yourself/ eat it yourself at a lonely place?
72. To what extent you can empathize or sympathize with others?
73. How long you can wait for someone? (Perseverance and Faith)
74. What about making a promise and keeping it?
75. Will you like to meet your goals by any means or take cares of the means too?
76. What you feel about adopting unfair means (telling lie, accepting or giving bribe, Seduction, etc.) for getting a work done?
77. Will you like to have a joint bank account or a personal bank account?
78. Will you like to share the passwords of your email/social network sites/ Internet banking/ATM cards, etc. with your Other Half?
79. In the case of your investments, whom you will like to make your nominee: Parents +/Other Half+/off springs+/siblings etc.
80. Will you like to give better wage (more than the existing rate) to the Daily wage labors/workers engaged in your service?
81. What things will you like to share with others: That you cannot like to use for yourself? Or that you like to use for yourself?
82. While on travel, how long can you “hold” from relieving yourself at the places where there is no proper toilet facility?
83. Grandparents enjoy being with their grandchildren, but some parent feel that they can spoil the child. What do you feel?
84. What makes you feel proud of yourself?
85. What will be your tolerance to the laziness and other wasteful habits of your other half?
86. What is the level of your “Forgiveness and Forgetting” the mistakes of others.
87. Will the success of your other half more than that of yours, will make you feel insecure and jealous?
88. How you like to socialize yourself? Will you like to mingle well with your neighbors?
89. Will you like to donate your eyes /other organs after your death?
90. Do you believe in Moksha, life after death, ghosts, religious rituals after death, etc.?
91. How much offerings you make in a religious/charitable ceremonies?
92. How much buckets of water you require for bathing? How much time you spend in the bathroom?
93. Do you like to bath in morning or evening hours?
94. Do you like to use squatting or sitting type of lavatory?
95. What eating behavior should be adopted in a high profile society? Normal eating with hand, licking the fingers, and than washing the hands and mouth along with gurgle/ washing hand in the plate itself, or eating habit-eating with spoon+/ fork and using tissue papers to clean the hand and lips?
96. What you feel about the snoring at the time of sleeping?
97. What do you feel about the life of a transgender? What about the ‘Same sex’ relationships?
98. What do you feel about the "Gandharva vivaah" and "Live in Relationships"?
99. To the bride: If you happen to get/hold an important post in the “ministry of women and child development” or in the “national commision of women”, what will you do for the welfare of Women and Child?
100. “In government Job or in a private job, a person may recruit someone to find his/her “Other Half”/to meet his need of sex/offspring/to get the “Other half” of his/her offspring(s)/relatives etc.” What do you feel about it? 
101. Will you attend your "Other half", if he/she reaches to the condition, in which he/she has to do toilet on the bed itself, and he/she is unable to clean himself/herself.
102. What if the parents of the "Other half" reaches to the same condition. Will you you like to attend them?
103. What you feel about doing the menial work?

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