ॐ तपः The Child and Parenting

मम योनिर्महद्ब्रह्म तस्मिन् गर्भं दधाम्यहम्। संभवः सर्वभूतानां ततो भवति भारत।।14.3।।
सर्वयोनिषु कौन्तेय मूर्तयः सम्भवन्ति याः। तासां ब्रह्म महद्योनिरहं बीजप्रदः पिता।।14.4।।
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गतिर्भर्ता प्रभुः साक्षी निवासः शरणं सुहृत्। प्रभवः प्रलयः स्थानं निधानं बीजमव्ययम्॥९- १८॥

Om Tapah: 

The Child

1.      Impact of Genes/DNA

·        Impact of father’s genes (Autosomes, X and Y Chromosomes).

·        Impact of Mother’s genes (Autosomes, X chromosomes, Mitochondrial chromosomes)

·        The impact of lineage/social biology

2.      Impact of Environment and Activities (prior, during and after copulation)

·        The impact of gravitational forces of different Astronomical object and cosmic energies (Graha, Nakshatra, etc.). Astrological compatibility.

·        The Impact of Food (Nutrition-balanced or deficient, Satwik/ Rajshi/ Tamsik). Food can be aphrodisiac and anaphrodisiac. Some gynecologists also claims that the food habits of parents has impact on the sex of the child.

·        The Impact of Health

(1)   Heritable/non heritable diseases and deformities.

(2)   The process of Mitosis and Meiosis.

(3)   The Health and Concentration of the sperms.

(4)   The Health of the Ovum

(5)   The normality in functioning of copulatory organs, Uterus, Pelvic girdle and Breast.

(6)   The age factor and Maturity of the parents.

(7)   The blood compatibility.

(8)   The Impact of Mental/Psychological Health

(a) The attitude towards the process of child production.

(b) Consciousness of the parents about themselves (Strengths and Weaknesses)

(c) Objective of Copulation: Child production (Dhramaj) or Sexual pleasure (Child byproduct) (Kamaj)?

(d)  Degree of Activeness, laziness, Consciousness and unconsciousness, under addictions, etc.

(e)  The behavior during copulation (Assertiveness Vs. Aggressiveness)

(f)   The sense of sexual satisfaction

(g)  The sense of hygiene/cleanliness.

(h)  The Pride / Vanity / Ego / optimism / pessimism / positivity / negativity / frustrations / Restlessness / excitements / forgiveness of the parents.

(i)   The faith in God/divine energy.

(j)   The gratitude of the parents towards God for giving the ability of copulation and the resulting pleasure out of it.

(k)   Desire and Prayers for getting the good child. (Healthiest Sperm to fuse with the healthiest ovum.)

(l)      The gratitude and respect of both the partners towards each other for fulfilling and mutually “satisfying” each other.

(m)  The gratitude towards the forefathers and the activities done for their welfare, gratitude towards the guardians/elders and Gurus.

(n)    Prayers for good “Energy” to enter the body forming in the womb.

(o)   Feelings of the parents, especially the mother during the pregnancy. Diet of the mother during the pregnancy. 

(p)   Teaching activities of the parents, especially mother during the pregnancy.

(q)   Pain/suffering of the mother during delivery and the gratitude towards the divine energy for the successful child birth.

(r)   Feeding of colostrum and then the mother's milk to the baby.

(s)  Immunizations/vaccinations given to the child.

·        Net of the good and bad deeds, net of what the parents have given to others and what they have taken from others.

·        Blessings of the Guardians/elders and Guru.

·        Charitable activities of the parents.

·        The impact of Time

(1)   Time of copulation

(2)   Time of child birth

·        The impact of Place.

(1)   Place of copulation.

(2)   Place of child birth.

(3)   Climate of the place has impact on the sexual health.

(4)   Place has impact on the fate of a person. The energy that exists on that place.

·        Teaching activities of the parents, especially mother.

·        Grooming/Schooling/Nurturing/Environment provided to the child.

·        The ability of parents/society/school to analyze and understand the niche opportunities/special talents possessed by the child and nurturing it.

·        Government/administration/social structure to protect the women and the child.

·        Government’s role in Population control.

·        Socialization: Social taboos, communication between the male and females at different age groups, permissions and restrictions for the relationship between male and female. The “Lakshman Rekhas”.

·        The education of the parents. Possession of knowledge capital!

·        The financial conditions of both the parents, and the resources available with them/is in their control, the ability to meet different physical and material needs. The nutrition provided to the child.

·        The impact of language (Mantra, Sound)

·        The competitions, corruptions and struggles in the society.

·        Preferences towards “Inbreeding” or “out breeding”.

·        The pollutions (carcinogens, oxidants, harmful radiations etc.) in the environment.

·         The different relationships in the family and of the parents of the child.

·        The world beyond the world and the Rebirth.

(1)   There is World beyond this material world. The world of spirits/ghosts/souls/ “jeev atama”

(2)   The “jeev atma”/soul/spirit after death, based on the net balance of its Karma, is either “forced”/ “directed” to take another form of life (inferior/superior) or with its balance of “positive – negative energy” can continue to remain in the “conscious” form and put bad and good impact on the other forms of bodily life.

(3)   There would also be some form of competitions between the "jeev atmas" to get into the “good” /lucky womb. Which spirit will get into which womb, will be greatly decided by the present and previous births karma of the parents and the karma of the spirit.  

(4)   The balance of the good and bad deeds of the previous births continues to have impact on the fate of the child and his/her behaviors (mainly childhood). 

The moral objective behind producing child is to transfer our parental debts to our child.(Pitra Rin)

The pleasure associated with copulation is the “motivation” given by the Nature/ “Kamdev” to reproduce/breed.

When the primary objective of copulation is to get “sexual pleasure”, and the “child” resulted from it is the “by-product”, the child will have the life of a common man (good-bad-worst).

But when the sexual intercourse (conscious, prudent, disciplined) is treated as a Yagya, the child resulted out of it will have high degree of nobleness.

The Good Child

1)      Is the biggest wealth and achievement of his/her parents.

2)      Is able to meet the hopes and aspirations of the parents.

3)      Is able to serve their parents.

4)      Is able to meet the hopes and aspirations of the society, country and humanity.

5)      Is able to create a bench mark.

6)      Is able to produce another good child.

7)      Is Healthy, intelligent, assertive, with good memory and concentration.

8)      Has good emotional intelligence.

9)      Has insight and intuition.

10)  Has good ability of presentation.

11)  Has pleasing personality.

12)  Is prudent, grateful and merciful, with ego under control.

13)  Is with least imperfections.

14)  Is fortunate and successful.

15)  Is like leader with ability to uplift others.

16)  He/she takes care of the nature and environment.

17)  He/she appreciates the talents of others.

18)  He/She likes cleanliness and is neat and clean.

19)  Is dutiful and without laziness and other wasteful habits.

20)  Has good self determination and control over the situation.

21)  His/Her mind will be able to get (milk) the required knowledge/wisdom from the  knowledge capital prevailing in the cosmos. His mental energy and intuition will be high.