Emotional Blackmails in India

1. Emails/SMS coming to you, in praise of a lord, or a help message, etc. and tells you that if you (don’t) forward this Email/SMS to … numbers of people/friends, you will get lots of fortunes (misfortunes).
2. Similarly sometimes you will get a pamphlet, mostly in praise of some god, and asking you to print it in …numbers and than distribute it. If you (don’t) do so, you will get lots of fortunes (misfortunes).
3. When you are from say a “Hindi” speaking belt in a non Hindi speaking state, say Andhra Pradesh/Tamilnadu, etc. In bus stand, you will find a man with his wife and child. They will say you that, they are from “some” “Hindi” speaking state. They came for a visit to a temple.  They have lost (become victim of theft) their money/packing on the way, and will request you to help them by giving some money (something in hundreds!). I found one such “family” on Hyderabad bus stand, some other day; I found the same family near the Care Hospital, Banjara Hills, Hyderabad and one day also in Hosur bus stand, Tamilnadu.  
4. A person with a vehicle (motorized/bullock cart) with a picture of some Guru, will request you to visit the shrine of the Guru and will tell you something about your present days, your personality, ask you some money to offer, naturally/most often you will try to settle by offering something “less” (say between “Rs.5 to 50”). He will return you that money and will ask you to “preserve” it (not to invest) as a gift from the “Guru”, and will ask you “some hundreds/thousands” of money, say for the community feast. He will even ask you, how much money you have in the “purse”? If you fail to give him what he desires, he will “curse you” or “signal you” a curse.
5. If you are Single and in the struggling phase of your life, some may even ask you to marry someone to gain a good luck.
6. While you are walking on the road, a person will come to you, say that he is employee of some nearby office/organisation and have missed his purse in the office. He will ask some money say (20-200) to go to his house. To win your trust he will even persuade you to keep his watch, mobile phone, etc. If you are a “good” man, naturally you will not take those things and give him some money say Rs.20-50. But soon you will be surprised to find a bike coming and lifting away that person!
7. In some school/colleges, some “teacher”/ “professor” develops habit of asking money from the students, and the student in hope of getting good marks/respect/desire to get favor will have to give the asked money, but most often will not have the courage to ask it back.
8. Some people with “wasteful habits” develop habit of asking money from others. Many times they will go to the friend/well wisher of some “relative” and ask money saying that the “relative” is sick/hospitalized, etc., guardians are not there, he urgently needs some money etc.
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Why someone becomes Individualist?

1. When a person likes to be known by his/her own personality, works, etc. and not by the efforts of his/her parents/relatives/community etc (Serious about his/her own Identity). 
2. When his/her goal is different from the goal of his/her elder/younger siblings and the “guardians”.
3. When he/she is not comfortable with some of the “traditional values” of the family.
4. When he/she loves the “Person” (Other Half) more than the “Property” and can even compromise with the “Property” for the “Personality”.
5. When he/she strongly feels that it is their personal right to select his/her “Other Half”.
6. When he/she is not the elder most child, but feels himself/herself superior then his/her elder sibling and feels that the traditional family values demands him/her to “compromise” with his/her rights to match that of the elder sibling.
7. When he/she has “over faith” in some of his/her values and the ability.
8. When he/she has inclination towards the “beauty” and other “good things” of life.
9. When he/she has some degree of “perfectionism” in him/her.
10. If he/she has “jealousy” in the Nature.
11. When he/she feels to be “special” (but not acknowledged/recognized/ accredited).
12. When he/she over emphasizes the discovery of “Niche opportunities” associated with his/her personality, and he/she strongly wants to discover his/her “Nature” and “Inclinations” and nurture it.
13. When he/she likes to worship his “God” in different way or mixed way (not minding even offering his/ her sexual desires to the “God”.
14. When many “opposite sexed” likes to marry him/her but he/she is not able to get closer to the person whom he/she likes to marry.
15. When he/she is egoistic.
16. It is not an easy thing to become an Individualist. You need to have luck (“Support of the dominant stars in your Kundili”) +/money +/special talents+/favorable laws of the land.)

Wikipedia on Individualism 
Guide to marriage decisions for the Individualists 

The Private Job and the Job gap

Intelligent people don’t get into the Job gap/or they just don’t wait to get into the Job gap!

Job gap may not be good for the employee but is good for the employer and the economy, as the unsuitable Human resource is weeded out. Employee will have to maintain the decorum of the job, or get terminated!

Too much job gap may increase your detachment, or make you a parasite, but it may also increase the chances of your becoming unemployable.
Sometimes it is better to remove the unproductive employees ("Parasites"), as he/she may generate/promote negative thoughts in the mind of other employees and de-motivate the productive employees, causing considerable loss to the organisation.

Always the employees cannot be proactive, they need motivation, goal orientation, empathy and sympathy from their Employer/HRM.

What Job gap gives?

1. Sleepless nights
2. Anxiety
3. Worries and Uncertainty
4. Loss of money from your savings/ Fear of becoming Pauper. 
5. If you have debts like education loan, than you will not be able to pay the EMI (equal monthly installment) and interest will go on increasing. 
6. If you are Single, with very less cash liquidity, and an uncompromising, Individualist, then you will not find your Other Half. 
7. It may leave you into situation where you become “Covert”.
8. May make you absent minded and a day dreamer. 
9. It will give the employer from small and medium industry, an opportunity to hire you at a salary less than what your qualification deserves. 
10. You will start remembering and contacting your old friends and seeking help from them. 
11. Your ego may start having an abnormal growth. 
12. You may land into the vicious cycle of Probation period and poor experience. (Vicious cycles)
13. If you are internally strong, optimist with faith in God and self, then you will become more religious, philosophical, customer to Human Resource/ Career Consultants and/or religious “Gurus” and /or astrologers, etc. 
14. If you are not internally strong and optimist with faith on God, than you may become a prodigal child of your parents / Social parasite /addict to intoxicants (tobacco products/alcohol/drugs/Opium/Marijuana, etc.) / Criminal/Naxalite/Terrorist/part of the sex industry/ etc. 
15. Rarely, but opportunity to get better job.
16. If you had been working far from your house and had not visited your house for very long time, than an opportunity to visit your house! 

Managing Job Gap 

1. Sales ≡ Survival. Strive to increase the Sales and the Profit of your organisation, and also try to get the credit for higher sales/profit on your name. Keep this as your prioritized goal and forget all your personal goals. 
2. Motivate/encourage your coworkers/subordinates bringing money to the organisation by increasing the Sales/Profit.  (To increase sales, no much higher degree is required. Pleasing personality, ability to convince, optimism, knowledge of the language of the client/customer, etc. is enough)
3. Plan your finances and savings in such way that even if tomorrow you are asked to resign, you may sustain yourself and your dependents till finding of new job and getting the salary.
4. Don’t be averse to competition.  Competition is the rule of life, as the life starts with the competition between the sperms. Even the saints and beggars have to compete with their peer ones.
5. Never criticize your boss and the organization in which you are working.
6. Never try to show yourself smarter than your seniors. 
7. Never argue with your boss and cross question them.
8. If you feel uncomfortable, keep quiet and try for silent search of another job and then quietly resign. 
9. Avoid being too much open and transparent.
10. Keep on trying for Government job. (There the parasitism is quiet tolerated! If you are not doing work as expected by your higher officer, you may be scolded/ not given promotion/suspended in extreme case; but you will not be terminated! ).
11. Digest the fact, the boss is always right.
12. Don’t teach thriftiness to your boss/senior. 
13. Be a blind follower of your boss.
14. Don’t think about the cost the organization will have to bear at attrition, but think about the cost that you will have to bear on getting into the job gap.
15. Unlike US, in India there is no “Jobless claim Benefits”. There will be hardly anyone even to help you.
16. Your good contacts at the period of good time may help you.
17. Never show that you are idle. Even when no proper work is being assigned to you, try to show that you are involved in some important work and you are important for the company/organization.
18. Never nurture your ego.
19. Try to digest few facts.
20. Never try to come very close to your Human Resource Manager. Even if you feel to be idle in your organization, never go and tell your HR about that.
21. Never use your office resources for your personal interests and hobbies. E.g. using office computer for blogging, chatting with friends, personal emails, etc.
22. Similarly never use your office communication system to talk to your relatives, friends.
23. Never comment about anyone or give judgment about anyone. (Habit of loose commenting is very dangerous)
24. Never forget your status in the organization. 
25. Even when you are suffering from monotony, drudgery, or no job satisfaction, never express that to anyone. Never express your frustrations to your co-workers.
26. Beware of the organizational politics. 
27. If you develop fear that the boat in which you are traveling along with your co-workers has a hole in it, you need smartness in managing your fear. Your fear, when known by others, can magnify the fear of the investors of your company, which can cause havoc. So never air-out your fears about loss, failure, etc. with your juniors, subordinates and/or superiors. 
28. Be cautious when there is overstaffing, and no work is being allotted to you. 
29. Don't forget to switch off or keep your mobile phone in Silent mode while attending a meeting/seminar/conference, etc.
30. Never attend a personal call, when your Boss is near you or talking to you.
31. Stand up from your seat when your boss + /senior employee + /customer comes near you to communicate or see your work. 
32. Don't forget to close your personal files from the computer, when your boss/senior employee comes near to you.
33. While attending any exhibition cum sale, if you happen to quote wrong price for any of your product, don't give over value to your word and stick to it, but say sorry and give the right quotation. 
34. Never interfere, especially when your boss is saying something to a client and you have felt that he/she has given wrong statement, and you pin-pointing his/her mistake, trying to correct him/her!, not even when your boss is too close or friendly to you. 
35. Don't try to be a perfectionist! 
36. At the time of your recruitment, If the employer does not take any of your original certificates, be sure that they will not mind even if you resign the next day of joining! In this case you should keep on trying for a better job. 
37. Beware, in some interviews, there can be some members from interview panel, acting as your competitor. 
38.  If they keep some of your original certificates, then be sure that they do not want you to loose immediately. 
39. The employer happy in recruiting you, will arrange at the organization’s expense, accommodation and food facility for you and will even pay you the cost which you have borne in coming to the site of interview. 
40. Analyze your "Nature", preferably in the early stage itself and explore the opportunities most suited to your "Nature".  

Increasing the Employability (Apart from Educational qualifications and knowledge of different languages):

1. Having house in the city/town or the places where job opportunities are more.
2. Getting married! Most of the Job prefers married men/women than the single ones.
3. Having Passport and Visa, Voter Identity Card, Permanent account Number (PAN), Demat account, Driving Licence (Two wheeler and four wheeler), National and International ATM card, Internet Banking, Multi city Cheque book, Unique Identity Number (recently launched), shares of the company in which you like to work, etc.
4. Having  Mobile phone (multi SIM+/Long battery life+/Internet access+/GPS+/etc.), Motor bike (outdoor/field work and travelling jobs) (Car for high profile job) and/or Laptop/Net book (managerial job)
   
   
   
   

Some of the techniques (De-motivation practices)  to remove from the job/force to transfer :

Many company/organisation do give hint or warnings along with the chances to improve, before firing someone.

Before straightforwardly asking to resign, most of the employers/HRMs, create situation when the employees may themselves resign from the job. Some of these are:

1. Allotting no work/ not properly defining the work
2. Abusing / Criticizing before the peer group, subordinates, etc.
3. Providing designation lower than some of the less qualified employees
4. Allotting work on Holidays, giving no proper leave, no benefits/appraisal for working on holidays, etc. 
5. Calling the female employee at somewhat lonely place, house (of the employer), etc. 
6. By making the female employee to stay in office till late evening/night beyond the office hours, by keeping on allotting some work. 
7. Harping about less-profit/loss, and not giving salary/wage or delaying in giving salary/wage. 
8. Neglecting, not replying to the issues raised by you, etc.
9. Creating situations of competition between the fellow employees.
10. Making you to travel different places without giving you the expenses in advance and than creating delay in clearing the Travel Allowance/Dearness Allowance/ expense bills. 
11. Your immediate superior will ask you, have you got the salary for the month in your account? Many senior staffs have not got the salary! The company is in loss. Prepare for another job. Or will create similar environment to make you feel job insecurity.

Finally terminating

1. The employer will ask you to search another job for the time being, and that they can rejoin later, when the organisation passes out from the “difficult” times. 
2. Asking you to submit the facilities provided by the organisation along with the resignation letter.
3. Asking you to leave for your house and stay there unless, the organisation recalls him/her.
4. Transferring you under the “new boss” in a new office (near to your house), who does not like to consider you his employee. 

What employees need ?

1. Salary/Wage for livelihood sustenance.
2. Work close to the house and/or,
3. Work close to the family members and/or friends.
4. Availability of affordable accommodation
5. Being considered important for the organisation, and love and respect from the co-workers.
6. Justified salary/wage with increments to maintain the position, inflation, etc. 
7. Clear job definition, goal orientation and motivations.
8. Job/Livelihood security, no fear of job gap, even when job gap is there, emotional and financial support from the employees and hope of getting at least at par job in another organisation. 
9. Security to life and health, insurance for life and health-both personal and for near and dear ones/family. 
10. Availability of food to which you are habituated (e.g. Vegetarians will not enjoy working in the places where mostly non-vegetarian foods are available) and the products which you are in habit of consuming.
11. Availability of other infrastructure: Road, affordable Transport maintaining Time and providing convenience in terms of seating arrangement. 
12. Computer with Internet facility, Mobile phones with proper signal, etc.
13. (Some Tamasic needs of many employees are: Tobacco for chewing / Bidi / Cigarette / Gutakha /Alcohol / Meat products etc.)
14. Opportunity of getting better job at later stage.
15. Empathy/sympathy from the Management.
16. Better growth and development prospect for your children. 

Getting New Job!
When you have got it as a seeker/on mercy at job gap, etc. (You have not been snatched from your current organisation.)	When you are lured or snatched from your current organisation.
When you are a job seeker, with very less cash liquidity and high liability, you will not have much bargaining power, and your importance for the organisation will depend on the situation, vacancy etc. The old/existing employees of your new organisation may feel jealous and/or insecure. You may want higher salary and position but management will not like to create jealousy situation for its old/existing employee. Old/existing employees may even try to pull you down or see a competitor in you. You may find difficulty in taking decision, when a new job offer comes from the company  which had earlier not paid attention to you, but now when you have been supported by another company (though not at the expected salary).	Though it may be controversial from the view point of ethics, you will have options and thus bargaining power. Here you will be important for the organisation, which wants to snatch you. But beware; there may also be a ploy to destabilize your career or the organisation in which you were working.

Unethical ethics/Paradoxical ethics

1. Why an employee though frustrated in the current job, does not want to leave it?

• Loyalty?
• You somehow want to complete your probation period and earn some job experience. (It may be that, you would not have been able to continuously complete even a year in an organisation!)
• If you have promised or signed a bond, that you will not leave by yourself.
• If you are scrupulous and gratefully ‘indebted’ to your current boss for giving you the job in difficult times.
• You may not be confident of getting another good job.

2. Actions of a frustrated employee: 

• Writing blogs on the office computer or personal computer with mostly complaining/revolting/negative thoughts.
• Posts resume on different job sites
• Talks negative about the company with the co-workers or with the near dear ones.
• Does not meet the target and gives several excuses.
• Prepares for the possible job gap.  

3. When you do not shift to another organisation, but remains frustrated /dissatisfied with your current job and expresses your frustration by cursing your fate, situation, etc., you will practice an Unethical Ethics or Paradoxical Ethics.

Government Job Vs. Private Job

My Resume

The Ego Management

What inflates a man more than the others?

Note: The inspiration of this topic came from a class taken by our Finance professor, Smt. S.Sudha, in Indian Institute of Plantation Mangement (Year 2008). In a presentation before the senior professors, and few students, she had to face several cross question, on which she got bit irritated and told the importance of, "Ego Management"