A person may fell in Love with some one due to Similarity (Supplementary effect/Synergetic effect) between them or Dissimilarity (Complementary effect/Fulfilling effect) between them.
If you have faith in Past birth and Rebirth, then believe that the marriage, love and intimate sexual relationship(s) of past birth(s) do have impact on the present birth. Ø
Since rebirth is due to not getting “Moksha”, and some sins (unbalanced Debit/Credit in terms of relations and finance), it is quiet possible that your past births partner(s) reappear in your life, make you crazy, but do not become yours! Or become yours, but out of some situational compulsion and you may not like her/him. On having many intimate sexual relationships in past birth, it is quiet possible to get more than one wife/husband in the present birth, or extramarital relationships, or disturbed relationships, or many love failures, not getting the desired other half, situational or compelled single-hood, loss of other half (some days after marriage, or before completion of old age), situation of staying away from each other for many days in a year, etc.
Those, like many Sadhus/Monks/Bachelors who haven't "fulfilled" themselves by getting intimate (ethical sexual relationship) and supporting and getting supported by an opposite sex as "Other Half" may too find difficulty in getting the "Other Half" in the next birth(s).
The rich/ more influential/strong/dominant people will have more probability to get into polygamy or intimate sexual relationships with more than one partner.
These all relations will again decide the fate in the next birth(s). The children and dependents are also the result of unbalanced Debit/Credit of past births of the individual and family.
Money/wealth/job/salary/personality/family/race/religion/caste/educational qualifications/jealousy/competition/other relationships/other ego factors, etc. play an important role in making and deciding the fate of the love relationships, which starts with the first sight, creations of impressions and follow-ups.
To bid a high incomer/successful bride/bridegroom even compromises with genealogy and astrological factors are made in many parts of the country.
Most often the Love is between the people having some Similarity (Supplementary effect/Synergetic effect) between them (say being attractive, both being successful, happening to be together, etc.), but the cases of divorce and frustrations after marriage may also be high in this category, especially due to ego, jealousy, imbalance between work life and family life, misunderstandings, children related problems, existing relationships and 'influencing of divorce', etc. Here both the partners may have dominating effect and issues related to children may get less prioritized.
Many successful person, either do not marry, even when they marry, produce no to very few child and most often their child will not be so successful.
In the case of failed love, frustrations are quiet natural. To control frustration, try to use the power of wisdom. Sometimes when there is a serious virus attack in the computer, it is recommended to use the "System Restore" tool to "undo harmful changes to your computer". Think about your life, which was before meeting the "infatuating" partner, who could not become yours. Try to meet your good old friends of days before meeting that partner. Make balance sheet of all good and bad deeds done by you. Charitable/Philanthropic activities, visiting of religious places and eco-tourism sites, watching of comedy movies, etc. will also help. This all will give you lots of comforts.
I am not sure, but I am developing notion that the love relationships with the intention of marriage+/sex, should be avoided between the Rashi (Vedic astrology) of self and that of the very close blood relatives, though there may be good similarity in thoughts and understandings.
But most marriage, with no or least cases of divorce is in the cases of some Dissimilarity (Complementary effect/Fulfilling effect) between them, though there may be frustrations (say differences in income, property, success level, ego, height, weight, color, age, education, past relationships, etc.). Here one partner will have more dominating effect on the other, which will be happily/unhappily accepted by the other. Here issues related to children will get prioritized, at least by one partner! God does not give all happiness to everyone.
The successful marriages are the combination of some Similarity (Supplementary effect/Synergetic effect) and some Dissimilarity (Complementary effect/Fulfilling effect).
Balanced diet is better than that of the one type of tasty food. Many online matrimonial sites will be in better position to comment on the factors which influences the "Natural Selection in Human Breeding".
The active age for involving in career related success and fruitful copulation coincides. The professionally successful couples, not having successful child will feel very unhappy at the later part of their life. So at least one partner, especially the mother should compromise with the hunger of personal success and both partners should involve in parenting, as the professional success may come in the later age, but the time to involve in active parenting will be limited for a short young age (20s and somewhat early part of 30s) in life. A mother’s (along with the father and other family member’s) one year active parenting (copulation, pregnancy and delivery) will prevent her and the family, from the difficulties involved in grooming of the child in somewhat later stages of life.
Ø (I often feel that I had more than one love/intimate relationships in my past birth, and I was rich man, but due to some of my good deeds, I got birth in quiet good family, but could not get the expected love relationship and have to often face shortage/limitation of money. Though having desire to get “Dharma”, “Artha”, “Kama”and “Moksha” in this life, much imperfectness, sensual desires, limitations and laggardness became part of it! Currently I have reached near to completion of the average Half Life (30 years), but still I have not found my expected “Other Half”. I (Kanya Rasi) got attracted to a girl of Singh rasi, Kanya Rasi, Karka rasi and the Vrishabh rasi (by name, not sure of date of birth)-all improperly expressed, short duration and failed!. I finding many “dissimilarities” “rejected” the girl who had come in my fate, mainly due to the family based issues. The girl of Singh rasi, though a year smaller than me was ahead of me in life. “One sided” love for her was so strong that I was able to “feel” her even by being on a very distant place from her. She had “Synergetic effect” on me and my mind kept on giving feelings for her, such that the year in which she got “engaged”, the feelings for her increased, and later on knowing that she is between Marriage and Single hood I even expressed desire to marry her, but her success in career, my laggardness and struggle in career and something unknown, kept her to strongly avoid me. Many astrologers do not recommend the marriage between Singh and Kanya. I used “Gyan yoga” and mantra therapy to control my emotions towards her.)